If someone says they are going to call and they don't, and they don't send email or respond, and it goes on for a few days--but you can see they are engaged in some other online activities(from posts or log in dates) then it's reasonable to assume that person has gone MIA on you and doesn't want to talk, right?
I have Colin's sneakers, a stack of his books, and a bunch of other stuff, but the guy has gone radio silence. I sent him an email and have not heard back.
My assumption, which makes me really sad, is that he's reconsidered the intimacy of the past week and doesn't feel able to say anything--I am learning that this is a male trait, in particular--to try a relationship on for size, then say "nah." If this is the case, I am still appreciative of what I have learned from him about myself, but watching what I thought would be a great connection seem to fizzle out has me in deep mourning--and then I am also aware that this might not be what is going on at all.
Ugh.
Silence is such a bad tool for sharing what one feels...there's no guidelines, just fantasy-how the hell am I supposed to know what saying you'd call on Thursday night and then not calling or emailing is supposed to mean--except for fuck you, that is?
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