So I've been boyfriend less for less than a week if you reckon I ended it with one 3 weeks ago, and with the other this week. I am going on 2 days and chatting with others--BUT--I am going to take it REALLY slow this time in terms of getting intense with anyone.
Why? This space is helping me figure some things out:
1) I have been using my relationships with men to help me feel good about myself--the love they feel for me and the approval/care bolster my self esteem. This is nice, but it leaves me vulnerable to making poor choices to keep myself feeling enriched. Better strategy: focus on developing more activities--swing dancing, working out, walking come to mind--that make feel good about me because of ways I am toning my body or feeling energized. Ergo, better guy choices.
2) Date, for chrissakes! Don't jump in with every possible guy and start seeing that person 3X a week!
3) Seerk activity partners--a great way to connect.
There's lots more to say, I know, but I have to head out--will finish this later.
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