When I saw Wash this weekend, we talked about the issue I needed to clear with him, but we didn't get everything talked out. When I saw him last night, there were stil issues between us and it was tense. Finally, we started to talk--and talked and talked. We still didn't get everything resolved, but at least we were communicating.
During our chat, I worked on being clear what I felt and wanted, and made Wash own what he wanted. Every time he said "Do you want me to ...?" I responded "What it is that you want? Tell me about that..." because I think his issues are tied to the dicotomy between what he wants to do to please/placate other people and his need to own his own behavior and choices right out there in the open.
I think there are some issues Wash struggles with, that now I am experiencing and learning about, and the next few months will help me understand how insurmountable these issues really are, for me.
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