The X called me tonight to tell me that he and his girlfriend are getting married. He'd had dinner with the Kid last night and told him, and wanted me to know so the Kid wouldn't feel awkward. I am feeling wierd about it--on one hand, when he told me my first response was "Congratulations, I am so happy for you that you found someone you love enough to marry."
But then, I started to feel annoyed about how he'd met her last June at a time when he vowed to be alone and on his own--only he clearly never got there (and probably never got to sleep with the quantity of women he missed while married to me.) I also felt competitive--like "Is he accomplishing something better than I am by doing this?"
But then I also felt relieved, as in it's him making these impetous moves, not me--Not only do I not want to be with him, but I feel like I am in exactly the right place in my life, learning about myself and being joyful.
I called the Kid and spoke to him and we had a long talk about it--you see, the Kid met her--and didn't like her much--and didn't like the cautious, careful version of his Dad he saw when me was with them together.
But the Kid agrees that they treat each other well..and he says he will try to get to know her better.
Okay, the truth is I am in SHOCK---and I am not even sure why I feel that way!
Guess this is another milestone moment.
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