So, just to recap, I was with the same person for almost 30 years. We got involved when we were 20, committed to monogamy, got married, had a kid--and you know the rest. A year ago we broke, I moved out on my own and started over.
I can't say I'm surprised by how my life has evolved, but I have gone in directions I would never have anticipated during my marriage--or even at the end of it, when I was first imagining being single.
What's so different?
1) I am happy living alone--having friends, family and significant others is great, but I like my space
2) I'm way more alternative and liberal than I thought I'd be--for someone who was married to one guy forever, I am awfully accepting of all sorts of quirks, kinks, and lifestyles I never dealt with when I was with the X...this harkens back to my earlier (college) life when my friends lifestyles' were far more diverse, and the early years of our marriage, when many of my friends were gay or unconventional in some way.
3) I'm seriously interested in poly--monogamy just doesn't work for me right now, so this is interesting as an alternative--I just don't know enough yet to say it would work.
4) My values are the same--I just get to express them more. A kind heart, loving spirit, honest intent and desire to make the world better really matter--as does being an intelligent smartass.
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