R and I have been seeing each other for six
months. We met just as I’d moved into my
new place, alone, and when I had no idea what being single would bring me. Even
though I’ve had dates, drinks, coffee and some sexual experiences with other
guys, R is the one with whom I’ve forged a bond. I feel very close to him. I love that he
seems to truly get who I am, and I really trust him. I also see R’s own struggles--with his weight
and his health, and with keeping balance in his life--balancing that big
personality with the day to day grind.
Now, I think we're about to face a new challenge--Some things have changed in other parts of R's life, apart from me, that are causing him a good deal of stress. He started out brave, valiant and rational, but seems to be deep into depression, denial and perhaps even an edge of panic. It's frustrating, because I want to help, but I need to follow his lead--and he doesn't feel up to getting together right now (a bad sign in an intimate relationship, I think).
I'll give him some space, but I'm wondering if one of the things that broke up some of his previous relationships was how he interacted with his partner when problems arose--I've only been with him through calm and stable times, so I am going to now see how it goes when things for him get tough...I am afraid this will be very revealing of R's personal limitations and not sure what that will mean for us.
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