Quite the column in the Times today, by Terry Martin Hekker: " I was predictably stunned and devastated when, on our 40th wedding anniversary, my husband presented me with a divorce. I knew our first anniversary would be paper, but never expected the 40th would be papers, 16 of them meticulously detailing my faults and flaws, the reason our marriage, according to him, was over.
We had been married by a bishop with a blessing from the pope in a country church filled with honeysuckle and hope. Five children and six grandchildren later we were divorced by a third-rate judge in a suburban courthouse reeking of dust and despair."
And
"No jilted bride could feel as embarrassed and humiliated as a woman in her 60's discarded by her husband."
And
"...divorced" doesn't begin to describe the pain of this process. "Canceled" is more like it. It began with my credit cards, then my health insurance and checkbook, until, finally, like a used postage stamp, I felt canceled too."
WOW.
How are you now? I just now ran onto this site and want to hear how you are now- when you respond I'll expand my simular thoughts.
Posted by: Linda Reeder | October 16, 2007 at 10:40 PM
I am great...really well.
Posted by: suzannah | October 17, 2007 at 05:16 PM
I was wondering how you deal with being alone after all these years. I am thinking about leaving my husband after all the verbal abuse for at least 40 years but am so afraid of what lies ahead. Never worked outside of the homel he knows my fears. You get the picture
Posted by: lou | December 06, 2008 at 11:37 PM
After 47 years my wife says she hasn't loved me for 20 years.
She says the reason she didn't leave me ,was the children.
I had know idea she didn't love me,how dumb is that?
We have leaved the high life, with everything we wanted.
She tells me she has the rest of her life planned out.
I'm lost, because I'm losing the love of my life and best friend
Posted by: S Taylor | October 02, 2009 at 01:45 PM